The Ashley Madison hacked data is now searchable online. Will you look for your spouse? https://t.co/WcWvsPOLbT

— AJ+ (@ajplus) August 20, 2015

The problem of course is…. what if you are able to search the database, and you find your spouse, knowing that there are millions of fraudulent accounts there?  I guess it warrants a conversation, at a minimum, with your spouse.  But he can still deny it.  And THEN where are you?

But then again, if you have to ask the question, there is probably something wrong with your marriage to begin with.  Lack of trust ruins relationships (or, at least, the quality of them).  And lack of trust can come from (a) you being overly suspicious (statistics vary, but affairs are well over 33% of all marriages) or (b) your spouse doing things to warrant your distrust.  Or both.

Either way, would-be spouse-sleuths might want to consider that delving into Ashley Madison might be a symptom of the problem, i.e., your suspicion — without evidence — is causing marital discord.  Because just by looking, you create distrust.  And that’s not good.  Now, if you have some reason (other than your “gut”) and/or distrust already exists, then you might want to check it out.

But in the end, I don’t see any good coming from it.

P.S.  It’s also worth noting that many websites and ads purporting to have a searchable Ashley Madison database are actually virus-laden hacks themselves.